Tim Cook’s confession sparks controversy. Why is sexuality still a taboo subject?
I still remember the look on some people’s faces when I told them about the subject of my MA thesis. It was ‘AIDS in American literature written by gay men’. Now, when I look at it, I see that the title could have been better, but it doesn’t change the fact that I’m still proud of it. Anyway, people with whom I spoke of this paper reacted in different, not to say weird, ways. Some of them asked whether I was forced to write about it, others felt sorry for me, and a tiny group made awful comments about the disease, but that I don’t even want to write about. Just to be clear, I don’t keep in touch with them anymore. And no, no one made me write about AIDS and gay community, it was my own choice. I’m still grateful to my supervisor for supporting me and helping with finding sources for my bibliography.
One of the authors I wrote about was an American writer, Paul Monette. I started with one of his critically acclaimed works, ‘Borrowed Tome’, a beautiful and heartbreaking memoir describing the last two years of his life with Roger Horowitz. I ordered the book from Amazon and I waited over a week. When I finally got it, I began reading it in the evening and finished in the morning. I laughed, I cried, but, most of all, I couldn’t help but think it was the most amazing love story I’d ever read. You may think I’m insane, cause it’s sad and dramatic, but the way Monette wrote about his love was nearly divine. And it was real.
Love, love, love…and children
Now, what am I trying to say? I want to let all the people, who still have problems with accepting LGBT communities, know that there is completely no difference in love between two gay and two heterosexual people. It seems so obvious, yet so many people act strangely when they see same-sex relationships. The most common explanation is ‘they can do whatever they want, but in private, because no one should be forced to look at it’. This is the moment when adults should take a leaf out of child’s book. There is an amazing short video showing a boy’s reaction when he discovers a marriage consisting of two husbands. At first, he’s a bit confused, but after a while he simply concludes that if they are married, then clearly they must be in love. Simple as that!
Tim Cook’s coming out
What Cook did a few days ago became the hottest topic in all media. Even though Cook marched in Gay Pride Parade, many people refused to think that he might actually be gay. Now, when said he’s proud of it, a huge wave of hate was unleashed. Apple fans started saying that they lost respect for the company, isn’t that narrow-minded? I laughed out loud when I read that a certain man knew from the beginning that something was wrong with this company. But my number 1 is: “yeah, I always knew Apple was for fagg*^%”. Even writing about this makes me sick.
Others reacted in a sort of ‘veiled’ way, saying that they never were interested in somebody else’s sexual preferences, so they didn’t want to hear about who Cook goes to bed with. Well, dear outraged, maybe he didn’t do it for you? Maybe there’s still a group of people, who are afraid to come out because of the world’s intolerance? There are still thousands of cases when people marry someone of the opposite sex just because they fear the consequences of saying who they really are, and what they really want? And perhaps these words uttered by Cook will help them make one of the most important (and difficult) decisions in their lives?
I really hope that now, when such an influential person decided not to keep it a secret anymore, more people will try to look at things from a different perspective. I’m not expecting miracles, but who knows, maybe one day when I tell someone about my thesis, their reaction will be different, positive, so that I won’t have to explain myself, or try to convince them that I actually enjoyed writing it.
Tim Cook, thank you from the bottom of my heart!